Author: Steven Monahan

Former Fortune 100 Executive. Creator of TEDx Dupree Park, founder of GPA Charities.org

Recap of Joseph Campbell’s the Hero’s Journey

Scholar Joseph Campbell’s the Hero’s Journey, is a basic pattern found in many cultural defining stories from around the world. This widely distributed story pattern was described by Campbell in The Hero with a Thousand Faces (1949).

Campbell held that numerous myths from various historical times and cultures share the same fundamental structures and stages. The point being that all through mans story telling and cultures a similar pattern and life lesson is told to instruct the new generation how to live.

In concise terms it starts  with a man or woman who ventures forth from the ordinary common life into a region of supernatural wonder: fabulous forces are there encountered and a decisive victory is won: the hero comes back from this mysterious adventure with the power to bestow boons on his fellow-man. There are 3 basic steps, the departure, the initiation and finally the return. Many powerful stories such as Star Wars always incorporate the Hero’s Journey into their action narrative.

Why is it important to us today? Simple, The Heroes Journey is a journey we eventually all embark upon to discover who we are, and why we are here. For myself, and for most  it takes a lifetime to complete.

It is a circuitous journey of self discovery, setting sail from our familiar world, the world we were born into, to a strange new world full of action and peril and lessons learned, and finally back to home. But, when we arrive back we are a completely different person than when we departed.

Understanding the Heros Journey is understanding your life. Knowing these 18 steps helps you find your way along your journey to self-actualization and enlightenment. Bon Voyage…and safe trip home !

The 18 steps of the Hero’s Journey

Heroes Journey Diagram
Heroes Journey Diagram

Departure

1.The Call to Adventure
this is the launch of your journey. It is the point in your life when you feel it necessary to leave the safety of your dependent world, the world you were born into and feel relatively safe in your current situation.

2.Refusal of the Call
Often the future hero refuses to heed the initial call to change. This may be because of a myriad of reasons, such as  sense of obligation, fear, insecurity, or inadequacy, that hold you to your present life

3.Supernatural Aid
Once you answer the call and set out on your journey a supernatural mentor or guide appears, or becomes known to you to help you on your Journey.

4.The Crossing of the First Threshold
this is the point of action where you cross into the field of adventure, leaving the perceived limits of your ordinary world venturing into an unknown and dangerous realm where the rules and limits are totally strange and unknown. You are in a new world. Either a new physical external, or new unknown internal world

5.The Belly of the Whale
This part of the journey represents the final separation from your known world and self. It is sometimes described as the Heroes/ Heroines lowest point. It is however the point when the Hero is transitioning between known world and unknown self. The separation has been made, or is being made, between the Heros old world and old self and the potential for a new world/self. The dramatic experiences that will alter the new world and new self begin with this experience which is often symbolized by something dark, unknown and frightening, such as a great loss or frightening experience. By entering this stage, the Hero /Heroine demonstrates their willingness to accept and undergo a metamorphosis, to die to him or herself. A spiritual or physical death of Ego or Body.

Inititation

1.The Road of Trials
On the road of trials the Hero is subjected to a difficult series of tests, tasks, and challenging ordeals. Often the person fails one or more of these often time tests of three challenges. Failure and continued trying is required for the transformation of the Hero/Heroine to occur however.

2.The Meeting with the Goddess
Meeting with the goddess symbolizes the point in the adventure when the Hero experiences a spiritual awakening. It is also the union of opposites, and his/her awakening to the . The Hero/Heroine now experiences himself as a part of the whole of life. This is the final step in the Journey to enlightenment and self-actualization. Although Campbell symbolizes this step as a meeting with a goddess, unconditional love and /or self unification does not have to be represented by a woman. It could be the reconciling of the male in the female, and female within the male…animus and animus.

3.Woman as the Siren or Temptress this step is about those temptations that lead the hero/Heroine to stray. The Temptress is an Archetype and not actually a female. This step in the journey is more about the revulsion that the usually male hero may feel about his own fleshy/earthy nature, and the subsequent projection of that revulsion to women. Perhaps this explains why men are so violent to women in our world.

4.Atonement with the Father
In this step the Hero must confront and be tested by that which holds the ultimate unconscious power in his life. In many myths and folk stories this is the father figure who has life and death power over the Hero/Heroine.

5.We have now reached the center point of the journey. All the previous steps have brought the Hero/Heroine to this place. All adventure that now occurs moves the Hero out from this center. For the final transformation to take place, the Hero must “Die” so the new self can be “reborn”. The death can be literal or spiritual.

6.Apotheosis
To apotheosize is to “deify”…raise to the level of a god. When someone dies a physical death, or spiritual death she/he rises above belief in the pairs of opposites to a divine knowledge, love, compassion, forgiveness and as Campbell calls it “bliss”. In this awakened state; the Hero now resided in but not of the world. The Hero is in heaven above the fray of the ordinary world.

7.The Ultimate Boon
The ultimate boon is the receiving of Grace or The Gift, and the final achievement of the goal of the adventure. It is what the Hero left the Ordinary World seeking. The Hero sought and won the Holy Grail.

Return

1.Refusal of the Return
Everything has been won. The Boy is now a King, the Woman a Queen. The Hero sees the world in a different light. He or she sees the world…a dream for what it is…a mirage. Why come back?

2.The Magic Flight. Despite his awakening transformation the Hero somehow knows he must come back. The return is as full of peril as was the outward trek.

3.Rescue from Without
Just as the Hero needed mentors and allies on the Journey outward he will need magical and powerful allies to bring him back home safely to the Ordinary World.

4.The Crossing of the Return Threshold
This is a difficult part. The re-entry. The Hero/Heroine must hold onto the enlightenment gained on the quest and carry it back with him and integrate it into his Ordinary World. He has to figure out how to share his enlightenment and new opposite truths about life with the un-enlightened world. How can he convey the Mystery? Why even try? Most in the Ordinary World do not want it.

5.Master of the Two Worlds
In ancient myth, this step is represented by a spiritual hero like Jesus, or Buddha. For me mastering the two worlds is living a balance between physical and spiritual. Between “Being” and “Doing” The balance is to be in both the internal and external world; being and serving.

6.Freedom 
Learning to live in balance, without fear of death or of life, and no longer needing to please others is the reward of the Journey. One now lives in the moment and is now not alone but is one with all…himself, God, nature, animal and eternity.

I believe that we all eventually travel the journey at one point in our life and career. I set out on my journey 7 years ago after surviving a terminal illness. I had to leave the common world I was accustomed to so I could find out why I survived. I had to set out to find the real me, and find my purpose for being here. It was a 5 year journey full of unexpected trials and wonderful discoveries. It fluctuated some years from happiness to despair. But eventually I found my answers and found my way back home with the boon. I now live in peace, knowing my purpose and indeed the purpose of us all. It is an amazing journey.

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How To Love Your Work

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To love your work you have to love your life and love yourself. Sounds strange even arrogant but it is not.  According to Anna Quindlen author of “A Short Guide To a Happy Life said, “even those trying to find their purpose, even those engaged in fulfilling work, and even those of us lucky enough to have no separation between “life” and “work,” can get consumed by our modern cult of productivity”. Quindlen’s words come as a vital reminder of what matters, what counts, what the true aliveness of what a balanced work and life is…Happiness.

You cannot be really first-rate at your work if your work is all you are.

So I suppose the best piece of advice I could give anyone is pretty simple: get a life. A real life, not a manic pursuit of the next promotion, the bigger paycheck, the larger house. Do you think you’d care so very much about those things if you developed an aneurysm one afternoon, or found a lump in your breast while in the shower?

Get a life in which you notice the smell of salt water pushing itself on a breeze over the dunes, a life in which you stop and watch how a red-tailed hawk circles over a pond and a stand of pines. Get a life in which you pay attention to the baby as she scowls with concentration when she tries to pick up a Cheerio with her thumb and first finger.

Turn off your cell phone. Turn off your regular phone, for that matter. Keep still. Be present.

Get a life in which you are not alone. Find people you love, and who love you. And remember that love is not leisure, it is work.

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Can Men Mentor Women?

Steven Monahan

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Look at you…you’re smart, well liked, attractive, and really good at what you do. So why are you not as successful in business as you feel you should be today?

Well, in business the old saying that “It’s not what you know as much as, who you know, is still valid in today’s fast paced business world….perhaps even more so.

So, the next question is who do you need to know, and where do you find them so you can be more successful in your career or your business? Who is that person who will advance your career, give you wise advice, hold you accountable and always help you succeed? …It’s a mentor!

What is a mentor? A mentor is someone who is older, and already traversed successfully the same path you’re now just taking. He or she is experienced, successful and willing to…

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Free – Create a simple but powerful MY LIFE PLAN

Steven Monahan

alice in wonderlandWould you  please tell which way I ought to go from here?” said Alice.

That depends a good deal on where you want to get to” said the Cat.

I don’t much care where….” Said Alice.

Then it doesn’t matter which way you go” said the Cat.

                                                                                             Alice in Wonderland, Lewis Carroll

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My fellow travelers do you know where you are going in life?

Do you know what you want to do with the precious gift of life you have been given?

 Do you know clearly why you are here?

 Do you know how you will serve with the special gift you have been given?

 Do you know who you will share your unique gift with?…..If not, why not?

Please don’t be like Alice, frantically wandering around without direction, without knowing your special unique purpose in life.

To help you find…

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New Study You may not be an Extrovert Or An Introvert

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There is no such thing as a pure introvert or extrovert. Such a person would be in the lunatic asylum”. – Carl G Jung

My mentoring organization leads business owner round tables. At many of our round table meetings the conversation of one of us being an “Introvert” or an “Extrovert” usually comes up. The general consensus is usually something like this.

  • Extroversion relates to how outgoing someone is
  • Introversion relates to how shy or quiet someone is.

That was kind of my general belief as well. But after researching the topic of Extrovert  or Introvert for this week’s CEOM mastermind my research into Carl Jung who developed the term however found that common belief is really off! 

The term introvert and extrovert (originally spelled extravert) were popularized by Carl Jung in the early 20th century. However, their meanings got confused between then and now, and we all started…

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Change Your Job Or Change Yourself

 

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I mentor and coach people who are wanting to make a major life change. A change in career, company, relationships, health or even marriage.

Change can be the most difficult thing for some people to do. For me it has always been easy but I find for most it can be paralyzing. It seems they are afraid to make a mistake or afraid to be criticized. Through mentoring or coaching most learn to uncover their inner strength and make the change their heart says yes to while their mind is saying no to. When it comes down to a heart or head decision…always go with the heart decision. It takes courage but your heart has wisdom where your brain has other people’s thoughts.

I want to offer this piece of advice to mull over if you are unhappy in your career or with your boss or company.

You have 2 options. You can change your job, boss or company – or you can change your thinking about them. You can focus on what you do not like – or you can focus on what you do like. I find most clients focus on the problem and therefore feel helpless, frustrated, angry, stressed and out of control. The ones who are happy focus on solutions. They do not think about what they cannot change, but focus instead on what they can change – and then move forward in confidence and control and change it.

So there you have it – change your thinking from the problem to thinking about a solution. And change your job or change your thinking about it. Or of course make no decision and be miserable.

What will you choose?

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What Is Your Work Happiness Level?

Why do some of your co-workers seem to be happy and others miserable most of the day?

Why do some co-workers always seem to have conflict during the day and others flow through the day relatively happy and unstressed?

What do some workers struggle every day to earn enough, always taking one step forward and the next week one step back, never getting ahead”

I have found that why some create life, and others manage life is determined by what we believe; what we think each moment and whether we feel we create our life… or our born or present circumstances create our life.

To help you determine your happiness level I have created this short test. Look at each number 1 through 5. Determine and ask yourself what words resonate most with you. What words feel right for you? What words do you feel or think about most?

Circle the number you most feel each day and act each day. Then double circle the number you feel second most each day.

To find your results email me on the form below your single circle number and your double circled number. I will then get back to you with your happiness score. There are no right or wrong answers, no good or bad levels. We can change our levels through coaching and simply through self-awareness.

There is no fee, this is our way of helping find a balanced work and happiness level.

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        Answer these questions based on what are your thoughts at least 60%+ of day?

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1. Worry, guilt, self-doubt, low self-esteem, avoidance, slow in making decisions, lethargic at times, life is a challenge, people are evil, abused in past. Not in control of your life, feeling helpless to make changes or make a difference.

2. All things are either good or bad or black or white, thoughts on what’s wrong, focus on what’s broken, how can I fix things, feeling secretly unhappy, health issues, angry about something, frustrated, defiant, conflict is part of life; my team will crush your team, every man /woman for themselves. Some races are superior to others, think often about what do I have to do to succeed, can not easily achieve what others achieve.

3. To win we compromise, create win-win situations, motivated to grow, tolerate others, and forgive others, easy release of anger, highly self motivated, service to others, most people are good not bad, you adapt to adversity and make it a lesson to learn.

4. Caring, helping, supporting, selfless, think very objectively on each issue, help others win, others win first, take nothing personally, everything has a meaning, non-judgmental, no one ever really loses, the journey is important not the goal, life is full of choices, inspire all those around you.

5. Non judgmental, feel at peace, blessed, connected to all of nature and animals, playful, see life as a fun game to play… the game of life, wide-ranging choices, nothing is right or wrong or black or white, all parties must win, calm, powerful, totally confident, we are all connected, accept every event that happens, no past or future only present moment. I and God are connected, you create something from nothing, life is an illusion.

To learn your work – happiness level circle the number you most feel each day and act each day. Then double circle the number you feel second most each day.

Then if you are curious  email me on the form below your single circle number – and your double circled number. I will then get back to you with your level of work happiness. Again there are no right or wrong answers, no good or bad levels. We can change our levels through coaching and simply through self-awareness.

There is no fee, and I do not sell anything. I mentor and teach work life balance and enjoy helping others reach their level of happiest living..